People who succeed in many areas in life, experience a sense of fulfillment, and express a contagious joy have a resilient mindset. When things get dark, it's as if the light of hope and a can-do attitude kicks in to brighten things up a bit. They don't quit when others quit and that leads to victory over the challenges life throws at them.
Mark Divine
You're likely familiar with Mark Divine's book Unbeatable Mind. Even if you've not read it (and you should) it has shown up in your circle of manly books. Mark's mission isn't quite the same as that of Jocko's or Marcus Luttrell's though they share many of the same principles. His approach feels a bit more wholistic, taking into account body and mind with a different perspective than his SEAL brothers.