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My guest today is author and coach, Tommy Baker of Resist Average Academy. He is on a mission to help people achieve their best. His latest book, The Leap of Your Life will get you overcoming negative mindset blocks and heading in the right direction.

There is a fine line fathers are trying to walk with their boys. No longer is "guy talk" acceptable when it objectifies women. Yet, dads still want to help their sons acknowledged beauty in a respectful way. If, on the one hand, we treat sexuality and physical attractiveness as a taboo subject, we do harm to our sons and daughters. However, if we are glib about it, we do harm as well.

Shaun Buck of The Newsletter Pro, has managed to take what many would consider a dying industry to a $10 million revenue business. He's connecting business owners and their customers in a tangible way and has an incredible story of overcoming.

Good news for small start ups: Big is out, boutique is in! We've certainly found this to be true for Rustic and Main (my other business) and we're seeing it all over the place with our entrepreneur friends and small businesses we know on social media. What does this mean for you, as a man? If you have the entrepreneurial spirit but are worried about the risk, here is yet another factor in your favor.

I'm surprised by the number of men in our Facebook group that believe in Odinism and other stories from Norse mythology. Several have left Christianity for the same reasons many are leaving: hypocrisy, legalism, division within the church...basically the very reason we need Christianity. In any case, I have a challenge for you: dig in to Christianity rather than giving up on it. And, be honest with yourself about your reasons for walking away. 

I don't like people crying. It feels weird to me. Don't get me wrong, I cry...or I should say I have cried. But connecting with people when they are in an overly emotional state is not something I enjoy. I find this to be true of most men. We're not the best at nurturing, and there are some biological reasons for this. But, this is an area I need to grow in, and I imagine and area you do as well.

So many men who are in positions of leadership and influence keep their faith "private". That always bothered me. I am a Christian. I let people know that about me because it influences my entire worldview. Being a follower of Jesus means I am created with a purpose, for a High Call, and should not base my potential upon past circumstances or what I see around me.If you can't talk about your faith, defend your faith, reason with others about your faith, then your faith is weak. We're called to be salt and light "so they may glorify your Father in heaven." We can do a lot of good in this world without connecting it to our faith, but that's that what we're called to do.

At some point, especially when we become fathers, we decide it's time to "put away childish things", buckle down, grind it out, and eventually die. Afterall, that's the manly thing to do right? Stoic, hard working, all business, no nonsense? It couldn't be further from the truth!

Before we can answer the question of "Should a man curse" we need to exam whether or not language itself is something that men should elevate to a higher standard, or is it simply a tool that culture shapes and uses to communicate loose thoughts.

People who succeed in many areas in life, experience a sense of fulfillment, and express a contagious joy have a resilient mindset. When things get dark, it's as if the light of hope and a can-do attitude kicks in to brighten things up a bit. They don't quit when others quit and that leads to victory over the challenges life throws at them.

Over the last several months I've seen friends say "Adios" to Facebook or Instagram only to see them reappear a few weeks later. I've been there, you've probably been there as well. We recognize just how much time we waste scrolling through the lives of people we barely know while our kids grow up and our own dreams are left unfulfilled.

My goal is to help men be better men, and if I can help some of us be better Christian men then I'm proud to do so. Lonnie Berger gets this. He's the founder of Every Man a Warrior, a Christian men's ministry that is based around discipling men on the practicals of manhood.